Follow up

Last post I said I wanted to learn some ways to cope and get rid of my nasty apologizing habit. A few searches on google and I found a list.

According to Katherine Hurst this is how you stop apologizing so much.

Step 1: pause before you apologizing. Instead of automatically saying sorry sir and think about why you’re sorry and if those are true feelings or not. If an apology is needed then continue to apologize other wise go to step 2

Step 2: expressing compassion differently. When someone dies instead of saying I’m sorry say I know that’s difficult how can I help you through this. Of course that’s way easier said than done.

Step 3. Find what triggers you the most. Like for me when anything around me goes wrong I apologize. My trigger is bad feelings. How I can change that is realizing that it isn’t my fault so instead of saying I’m sorry help.

Step 4: don’t apologize when you need explanations. I know I am so bad at this because I feel like I burden them with my questions. Instead of automatically apologizing go with could you give more details? You and your words are important don’t apologize for needing more help.

Finally step 5: turn apologies into gratitude. Instead of saying I’m sorry I couldn’t come to your party instead say I’m so grateful for the amazing family time I spent it was relaxing and just what I needed. when you flip the mindset the attitude changes with it.

Alright in conclusion I’ve learned that I shouldn’t be sorry for any and everything bad that happens around me, but I know I feel bad when inconveniences happen. I need to use these tools! Thank you guys for reading! I love y’all ❤️.

-beth