Author Archives: Beth's Connection

Hey friends, it has been a while since I have spoken to you guys, but so much has changed. Ive changed so many of my habits in the past year or so. Ive been taking better care of my body, brushing my teeth and showering daily, going to the gym, and eating healthier (which has resulted in a whole jean size down!). Ive been learning how to love myself again and in that the one habit I have noticed has changed my outlook on life the most is my habit of thought. By changing something so small as the way I think about myself. From wow I really am stupid for doing that or thats a really dumb idea. I change it to that was a mistake I wont make again or I am glad I tried that, but the consequence is not worth the reward. I slip up sometimes in fact just the other day I was talking to a friend of mine asking her why i had stayed in my abusive relationship for so long and called myself stupid. She stopped me and said “I understand you do, but part of healing and growing is understanding that those things had to happen in order for you to be the person you are today, and the person you will be tomorrow. Does it suck? of course it does, but at the end of the day we are able to process and see “hey I needed to go through that because now I have set sturdier boundaries for myself”.” When I read that I nearly teared up. At that moment I realized that not only is healing and growing part of your mindset, but its also apart of the journey that God, the universe or whatever you believe in has put us on this earth to endure. All of this to say that if you change your perspective on the thoughts you have. Studies show that your perspective will change the 98% of thoughts we have everyday. (https://www.jenniferhawthorne.com/articles/change_your_thoughts.html) Once the reoccurring thoughts change it will be easier to for us to subconsciously think positive things and be grateful. Heres. a challenge for everyone reading this. Take 5 minutes in your day and write down 5 things you’re grateful for for 30 days. its better if you have a journal to keep track of your progress. I will do it too and check back in after the challenge is over! If you don’t have a journal and want to buy one heres a link to one of my favorites!

https://amzn.to/3ieq6RA

Check back soon my beautiful friends!

-Beth

Hello friends, I’m sorry it has been so long since I have posted. Here’s an update; I started to explore myself deeper. I now know that self love is more important than anything in the world. Here’s a little bit on how I feel.

As the waves of love crash down on me i realize that in the back of my head they will never love me the way I do them. As this distant thought gets closer and closer I begin to realize the truth of what is going on. As I lie in my bed trying to fall asleep every night in pain, they are talking to another enjoying their time and conversations just like us before. It hasn’t been a long time, but what I can say is I fell for them because of their words and actions and the same reason I fell is the same reason my heart has been ripped out of my chest.

This sounds depressing, it is. However, this experience has showed me a lot of gaps in my memories that I didn’t know I had. I feel more free. And I feel better than I ever have.

I went to the beach and read a couple of chapters of my new favorite book “Tallgrass” it is a book about sending the Japanese into concentration camps right after the bombing of Pearl Harbor. It’s sad but it is so good because it goes through the child’s perspective.

Anyways the beach was much needed getaway time. It felt good to be alone smelling the ocean breeze and hearing the waves crash while the words on the page whisked me away into another dimension. It was peaceful.

My first tattoo will be “tranquility” because I now realize how important it is to have that down time for your mental health.

Until next time I love y’all!

-beth❤️

For years I’ve been on a weight loss journey and have done so many things that aren’t sustainable. Keto was never sustainable for me. Keeping away from food and restricting myself is not the move.

Since I’ve moved back home I’ve lost 12 pounds. It feels good to find something sustainable. I eat what I want I just don’t eat a lot of it.

Loving myself has helped a lot too. Finding out why I want to loose weight helps a lot. It isn’t as scary to loose weight when you know why.

Are you trying to loose weight? If you are what is your reason? Let me know in the comments!

As always I love y’all and I hope y’all have a great day!

-beth ❤️🌻

Nothing in life is free. Someone always has to buy it in order for you to have something “free” but what about being free? can you really be free?

Being on my own (kinda) has taught me some lessons. I need to love myself before I can even think about living anyone else. And two I need to stop loving so hard.

However if nothing life is free than how could I really be freed. I think in order to be genuinely “free” you need to love yourself and know your worth.

Are any of you guys free? Comment below and let me know!

-Beth

Manipulation works in so many ways. Promising empty promises to get someone back is one that I’m dealing with right now.

Fortunately I see through them. I’m strong and independent. I need nobody.

My assignment for me and for all of you dealing with this is to start looking at yourself everyday and telling yourself that you are amazing and worth the world.

Let me know how it works for you

-Beth

Changes happen everyday. Some big and some small.

Change is inevitable, but it’s what you do with the change that creates an impact.

I’m going through a hard time right now because one of the biggest changes in my life (so far) has happened. A week ago I was getting married but as of yesterday I’m starting a new life.

I’m going down a different path that will only bring me joy and happiness and most importantly getting healthier.

My start to a new chapter of my life. A fresh page with words aching to be written. A new beginning ❤️

Our choices have a big impact on the way that we are seen to the world. If we make bad choices we will be seen as bad and vise versa.

That being said every choice has a consequence whether good or bad. I’m still learning that.

There isn’t much more to say than that on this post. Sorry it’s so short. Just remember to always choose your choices carefully because you never know the outcome.

I love you guys! Thank you for reading

I reached a goal today. I looked up and put into practice a grounding technique that I think really helps!

It’s the 5,4,3,2,1 technique. Basically it 5 things you can see 4 things you can feel 3 things you can hear 2 things you can smell and 1 thing you can taste.

This will help my brain get out of the panic state and into a calm focused state (hopefully). I used it at work when it was really busy and I had a billion things going at once. It is always important to stay grounded and focused when trying to get things done.

I also have a timer set for 30 minutes. Every 30 minutes I have a list of things I need to get done and I just continue with that. It makes the time go by faster and the productivity higher!

Thank y’all and as always I love y’all!! ❤️🌻